No matter how much you love and support someone, if it is not given in the way they need to receive it, it may not be received or may even be taken badly.
If you need nails and out of love for you I keep giving you balloons, I am not helping you and may be hindering you. If you are feeling stressed and alone, my actions may lead to further distress and the feeling of further isolation.
Be very aware of how you help others – they may not appreciate it or be ready for it yet.
We all need love and support in different ways, and even this changes so don’t assume you know what someone needs, what you may need in that situation may be unhelpful to them. How do they need support?
Give them love and support and either tell them you are there if they need you or ask if there is a way you can help them.
Then next step is then in their hands, if they ask or reach out for you then help them, , if they don’t then be there for them without interfering. If you are there for them , they are more likely to come to you for help when they are ready to, if you walk away because you’re frustrated because you kept helping and they were ungrateful and kept pushing you away, you may be helping isolate someone you love and care about.
Understand that this is their journey and you cannot travel if for them, some things we need to learn on our own.
