Archive for August 2009
There are many problems faced by people experiencing abuse:
Self esteem/ self perception is one of them.
The only reason we can be affected by someone’s insults and words is if on some level we believe they are right, and we have such a low perception of ourself.
This does not mean that the reason you are being abused is your fault, it does mean that you have the power to change it!
What voices are you running in your head? We all have these voices the difference between someone successful and someone who believes thay are not is what the voices are saying and whether how listen to the negative voices. Some negative voices warn us of danger, others are often that of family and friends trying to keep us safe. The problem with these family and friend voices are they often stop us from making choices that have a perceived risk, without allowing us to make these decisions ourself they may be taking away our opportunity to develop and grow on our own.
further information available on the Bullying & Domestic Violence link.
Do you know anyone who has or is experienceing domestic abuse?
Do you want to support someone experiencing abuse?
Do you want to know how to change abusive behaviour?
1 in 4 of women experience domestic abuse (accurate male statistics are not available), 1 in 3 employees experience bullying at work. Most instances of rape are by someone known to them.
No one section of society is free from abuse.
This webinar will introduce you to proven tools and methods to get out of the abuse cycle, help others get out of the abuse cycle effectively and move forward to a truly amazing life.
The webinar will be held on Tuesday 11th August 7pm
www.watchlivebroadcast.com (sponsored by Attain Response)
Please forward this to your friends, customers and those you care about – they may be going through something that you do not know about. Show you care!
Thank you!
Helen
No matter how much you love and support someone, if it is not given in the way they need to receive it, it may not be received or may even be taken badly.
If you need nails and out of love for you I keep giving you balloons, I am not helping you and may be hindering you. If you are feeling stressed and alone, my actions may lead to further distress and the feeling of further isolation.
Be very aware of how you help others – they may not appreciate it or be ready for it yet.
We all need love and support in different ways, and even this changes so don’t assume you know what someone needs, what you may need in that situation may be unhelpful to them. How do they need support?
Give them love and support and either tell them you are there if they need you or ask if there is a way you can help them.
Then next step is then in their hands, if they ask or reach out for you then help them, , if they don’t then be there for them without interfering. If you are there for them , they are more likely to come to you for help when they are ready to, if you walk away because you’re frustrated because you kept helping and they were ungrateful and kept pushing you away, you may be helping isolate someone you love and care about.
Understand that this is their journey and you cannot travel if for them, some things we need to learn on our own.
